Dr. Pastor Lawyer,
I have been wrestling in my and my fiance’s interactions. It seems like there is so much gray area. I want to be affectionate, not cold, but not ruin our marriage by sinning now. It’s also challenging for me because I know a bunch of rules isn’t the answer. Do you have any big picture guidelines or ways to pray\think about this?
I would say that you should love her with everything you’ve got in you. But by “love her” I mean, love her with God’s love. Love her for her sake and long term joy and happiness. Love her in a way that will help her to be a godly and glorious woman now and in preparation for her to be even more so after you are married.