Many people find that the hardest part of the grief journey is simply getting started. Stepping on the trail by facing the pain and the hurt can be terrifying. All manner of questions arise.
“What will I feel? Will I be able to handle whatever I feel? What if my thoughts consume me and my feelings overwhelm me? Will anyone understand? Will anyone join me? Is it worth it? What’s the point?”
Moving from denial to candor—honesty with yourself—requires courage. It takes time. Effort. Energy. Resilience.
Candor is worth it. Denial changes nothing. Denial only prolongs the inevitable. Pretending doesn’t change the facts and can’t alter reality.
If you haven’t already, consider stepping on the path.
Robert Kellemen, God’s Healing for Life’s Losses, p. 31