As William Tyndale put it, when God “buildeth he casteth all downe first. He is no patcher.” In the same way, the love of the Christian husband does not proceed from reading the “right books,” including this one, or going to the right seminars. God will not patch His grace onto some humanistic psychological nonsense—even if that nonsense is couched and buried in Christian terminology. It proceeds from an obedient heart, and the greatest desire of an obedient heart is the glory of God, not the happiness of the household.
Wilson, Douglas, Reforming Marriage (pp. 11–12).