[the conference] exists because its organisers believe that historic Reformed theology ill general, and the teaching of the great Puritans ill particular, does justice to certain neglected Biblical truths and emphases which the church today urgently needs to re-learn. This is not, of course, to imply that Puritan expositions of Scripture are infallible and final, or that the Puritans always succeeded in balancing truth in exactly the right proportions; nor is it suggested (forsooth!) that the way to solve problems which face Christians of the twentieth century is to teach them to walk and talk as if they were living in the seventeenth. What is meant is simply that the Puritans were strongest just where Protestants today are weakest, and their writings can give us more real help than those of any other body of Christian teachers, past or present, since the days of the apostles (J.I. Packer, in the forward to the 1958 Puritan Conference Papers, quoted in the forward to Puritan Papers Volume Two, 1960-1962, p. xi).
It is important for a counselor to actively pursue a knowledgeable relationship with the person he counsels. He must get involved in his friend’s life and gather appropriate data. Otherwise he will simply dispense the Bible instead of ministering it. This is what makes for good discipleship. Counseling is a type of discipleship that is problem-focused. It stands to reason that merely teaching truth from the Bible correctly is insufficient if the counselor misunderstands the counselee and his problem (John D. Street, Men Counseling Men, A Biblical Guide to the Major Issues Men Face, p. 55.)
By Lisa Leidenfrost
I am quoting from the book Rid of My Disgrace. It is a book I read for counseling. It is targeted for people who have gone through sexual abuse. But, I found some neat quotes that can be used for just general suffering. I found some good ones on emotion.
“Emotions are based on cognitive assessment and belief; they are not simply experienced. Rather emotions are based on and require beliefs, standards, and judgments. Emotions result from an individual’s evaluation of an event, situation, or object, and they reveal whether that individual sees some aspect of the world threatening or welcoming, pleasant or painful, regrettable or as a solace, and so on.” (p 43) read more…
You can listen to this sermon here.
In my counseling ministry, I always give home work. Usually this homework involves some Bible reading, okay a vast amount of Bible reading. But one thing I’ve noticed with both our church members and folks from other churches is that they read in a wooden, paint by numbers, jump through hoops, and check the boxes sort of way. Very few read for the reasons I’m giving them the homework. I think they think that Bible study is a lot like taking aspirin. If you take a few tablets, your headache will go away and you can get on with your life.
For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart (Heb 4:12). read more…
Ed Welch has a great answer. He doesn’t answer the question, really, but he does put the command into a real life context that invites us to come to the God who loves us instead of OBEYING a harsh judgmental God. More great stuff.
The following is part of a discussion I am having with a gent on LinkedIn.
I agree with you that we shouldn’t put anything in the mouth of God that he has not put there. Neither should we attribute anything to him that he has not said. I totally agree. As an example of this I suggest that this is exactly what you have done in bringing up systems.
I’m just guessing here but I don’t think you meant by ‘system’ that you meant only groups of people operating as a family, government, or religion. If you had, I still wouldn’t be happy with it. The reason is this. The Bible does not use the word system to describe how people interrelate in the various spheres of life. It uses the word ‘covenant’ (and maybe some others that don’t come to mind right now). Let me be quick to point out that I use words that are not found in Scripture. For example, I talk about the ‘Trinity’ all the time and that is not a word found in Scripture. read more…
It sounds like you all are going through a pretty tough time. I’ll be praying for you both.
I don’t know very much about CBT and hypnosis. I do know something about anxiety, God, and the Bible.
If Sandy’s anxiety is not linked to the medication, but to the thoughts connected with the shaking problem, hope can be given because it is a spiritual problem, not a medical problem.
There are several approaches I have taken with people over the years who are battling with worry and/or anxiety. One is to view the thing causing the anxiety, the shaking in this case, as a gift from God to be embraced instead of to be feared or avoided. This is what Paul did in 2 Cor. 12:7-10. In this case, Paul, after asking God to remove the malady, when he was convinced it would never go away, embraced the thorn because he knew that its presence was making him into a more godly man. read more…
The mercy of God is found in the restraints He places on us, and His wrath is revealed from heaven whenever He lets us run headlong, which is what is happening to us now. Douglas Wilson